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Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Dear My Ian,

Today marks our 3rd year anniversary together.

I've been thinking about what it is that I love the most about you, and I realized that what I love isn't really about you, it's about us: We can be exactly who we are in front of one another. I don't have to hide a single thing about myself in front of you. I can let you see everything good and bad about me, and you love me regardless. We share our darkest secrets and our most disgusting habits and our ugliest prejudices, and we don't think any less of each other because of these things. We also share our talents and our intelligence and our beliefs and virtues, and we support each other in these things. Our good friend Sov once told me his impression of our relationship is that we are extremely comfortable with one another. What could be more important than that?

Things haven't always been perfect. We've had our bouts of miscommunication and misinterpretation. We've had our arguments and we've hurt each other. There were times when I wasn't sure if we were going to make it. But we were willing to learn from these experiences, and have found better ways to communicate our feelings. I feel today that we are stronger than we've ever been.

You have been infinitely supportive of and patient with me in my journey toward law school. You let me run off a few hours nearly every Saturday morning for 8 months while I took practice LSAT exams, and you congratulated me when that hard work eventually paid off with a high test score. You are willing to follow me to another city in another state to pursue my legal education, even though this will mean leaving behind family and friends, and having to redefine our sense of home. You have listened to me when I spout out my fears about this move, and have provided me comfort and confidence. Just knowing that you are going to be there to back me up makes me feel like everything will be ok.

You are very bright in very different ways than me, and I think we are able to connect without stepping on each other's toes in this regard. You are a very talented musician, and have a keen business sense. I know in a way you have to put your dreams on hold while I pursue mine, but I want you to know that I believe in your dreams too. I know you can be very successful in any of the potential roads in front of you. I want our lives to be about supporting each other. This isn't all about me, it's about you too.

What can I say, Ian? I love you, and I can't imagine what my life would be like without you in it. I'm happy I don't have to. I hope we have many more years in front of us.

Love,
Your Mischief

P.S. Thank you for the beautiful springy flowers and delectable chocolates you had delivered to my office. That was a lovely surprise.

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9 comments:

natabird said...

Congratulations on 3 years!

Frank said...

Thank you for sharing something so personal and beautiful with the rest of us. Ian- Way to step up with the flowers AND chocolates.

heidikins said...

Sra, this is one amazing love note. I actually teared up. At work. In the middle of the afternoon. I am so happy that you and Ian are happy together, that you are so supportive and comfortable and work to keep your relationship that way.

Seriously, am getting teary again. Must fix this, stat.

Happy Anniversary.

xox

Loralee Choate said...

That is an amazing note. I think my favorite thing is recognizing that you are intelligent in differing ways.

Awesome. (And congrats!)

Dena said...

Being lucky and knowing you're lucky are two different things. It's good to know that you fall into the latter category and won't take for granted the friendship you and Ian have with each other. I hope that it continues :)

SoMi's Nilsa said...

What a lovely letter. I hope Ian actually read it!

SoMi's Nilsa said...

What a lovely letter. I hope Ian actually read it!

Loralee Choate said...

That is an amazing note. I think my favorite thing is recognizing that you are intelligent in differing ways.

Awesome. (And congrats!)

Frank said...

Thank you for sharing something so personal and beautiful with the rest of us. Ian- Way to step up with the flowers AND chocolates.

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