Is Sra your real name?
No, it is a nickname.
Where did it come from?
It's an abbreviation of my real name, and was given to me by my best friend in high school. He had a talent for imitating foreign accents and for inventing completely original accents. (He once convinced a native Scottish lady that he also hailed from Scotland.) Sra stems from one of his original accents in which he enjoyed putting the emPHASis of words on the wrong sylLABle. Sra quickly became my nickname among friends, and it carried over into college, where it was adopted by my various roommates throughout my college career. Some friends still call me Sra in real life, and I decided to keep using it as my online name.
How is it pronounced?
It is monosyllabic and rhymes with "bra". Some people mistakenly pronounce it as "Shra", after the pronunciation of the /sr/ combo in Sri Lanka. But the S is just a regular English S-sound, and not a SH-sound. Some people have a hard time not adding a syllable between the S and R (sir-RAH), and that's ok too, but it's not the preferred pronunciation.
Does Ian call you Sra?
No. He prefers not to address me by any name at all, although he will call me Honey, Sweet-pea, My Petal, and other such nauseating terms of endearment (I admit I do the same for him offline, though I have no qualms about calling him Ian to his face). He will use my real name when talking ABOUT me to other people, although I sense that he is uncomfortable even doing that.
We have a different attitude about names. I view the use of a name as a showing of respect. If I address you by your name, particularly if I insert your name where it otherwise might not be necessary to say (as opposed to saying your name to get your attention), you know I am showing you respect. I am saying, "Not only do I remember your name, but I like you as a person, and will address you by your given title." Ian, on the other hand, views the use of a name as a mode of expressing anger. Perhaps he got a little too much of the full-name treatment from his folks when he was a naughty young lad. I've had to learn to accept that he won't honor me by using my name, and he's had to learn to accept that I'm not angry with him when I use his name.
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Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Is Sra your real name?