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Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Telephonophobia

I'm afraid of talking on the phone. Strange, no? But it's true, I've always hated it. It gives me anxiety just thinking about talking on the phone. Well, it used to more so than it does today, because as a secretary I've had to deal quite a bit with phones every day for about 5 years now. Phobias are irrational, so there's no talking sense to get you over something you're afraid of, but being forced to face your fears on a regular basis does make managing them easier. Even so, it's really just the answering of incoming call that has gotten easier through my job. Placing calls is a different matter entirely. When I was younger I would sit with a phone in my hands, trying to talk myself into dialing the numbers when I needed to make a call. It could take 5 or 10 minutes before I'd get up the guts to make the call.

So it's no wonder I put off getting a cell phone much later than most of the population. I didn't bother getting one until I graduated college, just a few years ago. Now that cell phones are all equipped with text messaging, I find I like them much more. It's easy for me to send a text. I've always been more comfortable with expressing myself in writing. There's a protective cushion between you and the other person when you communicate in writing. It's somewhat removed and less personal. It feels safer.



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3 comments:

natalie said...

wow. i have never thought of it this way. really. i am the same way. i will take calls and talk the callers ear off quite possibly, but don't ask me to make a call. i don't know that i am scared of calling people i just figure if they wanted to talk to me they would call me. i am not a big initiator. i think most people are busy and will call if they need something or want to talk to me. it isn't even a self-esteem issue to me. someone told me once that i had a low self-esteem if i thought i wasn't worthy enough to call people. it isn't that at all. i am fine with me. i just hate to bother people. but i never looked at it as a fear before. interesting.

Sra said...

That's an interesting perspective. I'm sort of the same way in that I hate small talk because I feel like people don't actually care, they are just talking to be nice.

For me, it really is a phone anxiety and not a feeling that if someone really wanted to talk to me they would call. Although it is much easier for me to take a call than place one.

natalie said...

wow. i have never thought of it this way. really. i am the same way. i will take calls and talk the callers ear off quite possibly, but don't ask me to make a call. i don't know that i am scared of calling people i just figure if they wanted to talk to me they would call me. i am not a big initiator. i think most people are busy and will call if they need something or want to talk to me. it isn't even a self-esteem issue to me. someone told me once that i had a low self-esteem if i thought i wasn't worthy enough to call people. it isn't that at all. i am fine with me. i just hate to bother people. but i never looked at it as a fear before. interesting.

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